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Irritable Life Syndrome - Emotional Support team

By Paul Lubicz "The Wellbeing Manager"

Support (we all need it)

The idea that we need looking after as a whole 'being' is not just a new fad. In ancient civilizations the family or tribal unit was set up to manage the collective wellbeing of the group. There was a medicine man or shaman depending on the culture - these were tribal elders who people turned to for wisdom and other wellbeing practises such as natural remedies or healing techniques like massage (yes, we've enjoyed the odd backrub for yonks) to help the keep balance between emotional mental and physical wellbeing.

But somewhere along the way in our journey along the 21^st century, technology has caused a tumor in our 'taking care of ourselves' gene.

We might be living in a time where there are more avenues for communication than ever - but the art of real conversation is slowly getting lost. When was the last time you thought "I'll go and visit my mate rather than just send a text"? We've become so reliant on fast, easy means of communication that it actually has the opposite effect -we're now hardly communicating at all. By not having a conversation in person - we're missing out on on 95% of communication. We always seem to be in a rush, on our way to somewhere else, which means those deeper exchanges we used to have, get neglected. And quite frankly, what's so important it can't wait?

Make sure you always have a support team of people that you can have real conversations with and make time for that. Choose people that you have a real respect and connection with whether it's a peer, a colleague, a mentor, family member - or simply a good mate.

"What are you feeling?" (and how do you even know?)

In today's society, it's easy to get pretty confused about who you really are. There are so many outside influences - you lose that connection with yourself and the ability to inherently know what right for you. Our culture is saturated with exposure to media and marketing campaigns - so it follows that we start to lose our own individuality. When was the last time you decided to have your haircut because you wanted to look like 'you' - rather than 'Kate', 'Sienna' or 'Jennifer' (and once upon a time, 'Britney' but I don't think the skin head is going to catch on somehow). You are always being told what is best as opposed to knowing yourself well enough to achieve your goals in your own. Whether it's the TV ('ooh did you see EastEnders last night?'), magazines, celebrities or fashion - there's a constant stream of distractions. So, taking time to be alone (or even simply be outside) will help you regain your own power back.

THAT is how you can make the best decision for you.